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10 Masturbation Tips for Women for Mind Blowing Solo Sex

10 masturbation tips for women for mind blowing solo sex

It goes without saying that many of us are spending more time at home than we ever have before. We're also trying our hardest to manage the multitude of stressors that are popping up at the minute. If your current situation could stand to be infused with more relaxation and more pleasure, there has never been a better time to master masturbation.

One of the biggest benefits that comes along with masturbation is one we could all certainly use now after the past few stressful and uncertain years: A sudden release of oxytocin makes you feel safe and calm, adding that masturbation can also be helpful if you're dealing with sleep issues. Another perk is that it improves circulation and blood flow. The benefits to your skin are better than a day at the spa. (Seriously, have you ever seen how your skin can glow after an otherworldly orgasm?) But the long-term benefits of masturbation can also go far deeper. It can also improve self-esteem and body image by reducing sexual and genital shame.

Talk about a persuasive case for elevating your masturbation game. Here are our 10 tips for mind blowing solo sex that's sure to be fire.

1. Start with a relaxing, non-sexual activity.

If you're so stressed that sex of any kind feels like the last thing on your mind, you'll do well to start with simple non-sexual activities that will get you out of your head and into your body. A few options:

Make a playlist. Music helps manage stress and relax your mind and body. More upbeat music can help you feel more energized and alert and slower music can calm your mind and release tension in your body by relaxing your muscles.

Take a hot bath. Not only will slipping into a warm tub release tension in your body and create a soothing ambiance for relaxation and peacefulness after a long day, but you'll also prime your body through sensual touch and massage for self-pleasure by using your favourite soaps, oils, and bath sponge.

Stretch. Any movement is beneficial for physical health but stretching can urge tight, tense muscles to chill out, relaxing your body and amplifying blood flow, both of which can improve arousal and orgasm.

2. Sensual sets the stage for sexual.

Focus on feeling yourself sensually before diving into sexual stimulation. You can start from your head and work your way down, running your hands through your hair, massaging your neck and shoulders, caressing your breasts and belly, and massing your inner thighs.

From there, you might begin to touch your genitals through your clothing or underwear or use your palm to massage the pubic mound, the fleshy tissue above the top of the vulva area, or give your clitoris a sensual massage. Don't hold back from making noises, it can signal to the brain that you are aroused and increase sensations in your body.

And if this is new for you, this is also a good time to let go of any shame or guilt. Give yourself permission to look at this as an exploration of your body. There's no one 'right' way to masturbate.

3. Combine your touch with your breath.

When you feel aroused enough to start massaging your clitoris, go slowly and gently to start, and pay attention to your breathing.

Approach your clitoris with light strokes at first, and breathe deeply into your abdomen. Many women stop breathing during stimulation, which then limits their sensation. You need oxygen to start a fire with your clitoris.

4. Take your cycle into consideration.

You might already recognise that you get extra horny just before your period or when you're mid-cycle and ovulating, but having a more acute awareness of what your hormones are up to can support your self-pleasuring efforts. If you are in a phase like the ovulatory phase or the first half of the luteal phase, then you will have the added boost from an estrogen and testosterone surge driving both your interest in sex and your ease in achieving climax.

So, don't judge yourself if you are not interested in self-pleasuring during your bleeding week or your follicular phase. If you want to self-pleasure, then add lube, as these are both 'dry' phases and it will take more support to achieve climax.

5. Set up a "masturbation nest."

Getting comfortable is key to getting off, so invest some time setting up a luxurious, relaxing space that lends itself to letting go. Use pillows or blankets to create a 'masturbation nest' that is comfortable for different positions. You might want to put one under your butt to elevate your hips and give you easier access. And you could also try sitting in a lotus position or Baddha konasana (Butterfly pose), which opens the hips and vulva area.

6. Straddle a pillow.

You can boost the amount of friction and, in turn, sensation you're getting from your hand or vibrator by squeezing your legs around a pillow. Rub against the pillow or rock your hips back and forth while stimulating yourself with your hand or vibrator.

7. Use a clitoral-stimulating gel or lubricant.

While we tend to think of lube as an aid for penetrative, coupled sex, you'll also benefit from extra moisture, slip, and, depending on the product, blood flow during a solo sex session.

 (Note that gentle, water-based lube is your best bet if you're prone to UTIs, bacterial vaginosis, or yeast infections.)

8. Experiment with a new vibe.

If you're just starting out and wondering how to masturbate, consider finding a vibrator that offers multiple options, so you'll be able to experiment with a wider variety of sensations, positions, and stimulation. Aim for at least seven different vibrations patterns and speeds and a vibrator that can be used internally and externally. Make sure all vibes are medical-grade silicone so that they are non-toxic to the body and easy to clean.

 

9. Play with different types of pressure and stimulation.

Not only can you try devices geared to different pleasure points including your G-spot, clitoris, labia, and perineum — but you can explore varying degrees of pressure or different types of stimulation.

For instance, using your fingertips or your nails or experimenting with fabrics (think silk or leather) on your body's many erogenous zones, from your nipples to your neck to your labia.

10. Take advantage of a removable showerhead or your bathtub.

If your showerhead detaches from the wall, directing the propulsion of water to the clitoral area can be very arousing. Experiment with different amounts of pressure, starting off softer and working your way up to a more intense stream. 

Why Prioritize Self-Pleasure Right Now?

No matter what it looks like for you, masturbation is bound to offer a wide range of benefits. Not only is it an easy, free, blissful way to relieve stress and strengthen your vitality, but Masturbation normalises sexual pleasure, whether you are partnered or not. It provides a space to explore your pleasure without judgment.

The bottom line: It's pretty much the OG form of self-care, a practice most of us need now more than ever.